Why Can’t They Understand?

Hi Friends and Happy New Year!

In typical fashion, I got into another heated debate with some of my Owner’s friends over the holiday’s.  Some of her friends are so thick-headed that it drives me crazy.  Seriously.  I don’t mind chatting with the vanilla crowd, heck, I even love twisting their minds to see things through a different prism!  What I can’t tolerate is simple minded people that will not listen to what you say.  I should say, they hear you, but they don’t LISTEN to you.

OK.  So here’s the scene, and eventual “discussion” that I had.We’re in a pub, drinking, chatting, and generally being festive.  At the point where everyone starts to feel that familiar little alchohol buzz the conversation almost always turns to sex.  This time was no different, only I was outnumbered by her friends 3 to 1.  There was another guy there, but he’s a quiet lurker type and provided me no back-up at all. Ha Ha Ha…

As most of you know by now, I’m a HUGE orgasm denial and chastity proponent.  I have been for most of my adult life.  Knowing this, these bitties decided to egg me on into a debate over the topic.  I’ll try to describe the back and forth a bit, and hopefully you’ll get the idea.  It was me versus my Owner’s 3 friends.  She just sat there and watched with a big smile on her face as I verbally jousted with these chicks…..LOL

In no particular order the first bitty says, “As a woman, I find it nice that my efforts in bed are acknowleged with my lover having an orgasm.  It lets me know that I’ve done a good job.”

“I agree.  If I’m putting the work in to give my man a great blow-job, I want him to show me that it was appreciated by cumming hard.” Said bitty three.

At that point, I took a swig of my beer,  sat the bottle down, and said, “I know what your trying to do.  You won’t get me into this debate again.”

“C’mom Josh, you have to admit that mutual satisfaction is better for the relationship than just one of you getting to cum all the time.  Right?”

“Wrong,” I said.  Witholding ones orgasm is a sign of respect, and reverence to honoring ones partners wishes.  You can’t compare the two.”

I didn’t mean to get caught up in their stupid game, but I felt the need to stand up for the submissive lifestyle.  It’s just who I am.  I knew right away that was their game too.  All 3 of those hags smirked at each other as soon as the words came out of my mouth.

“I can compare anything that I want to Josh.  If I’m riding your cock and you don’t cum, I’m going to be insulted.  I’d feel like you didn’t find me attractive.”  The second hag said.

“Listen, the lifestyle in the Dominant and submissive world can NOT be compared to the expectations in the vanilla world.  It’s completely different standards and rules of intimacy.”  I took a long draw on my beer to try and get some silence between us all.

“That’s not true at all Josh.  If I’m your wife, and I want you to cum, you will.  Otherwise, you’d be insulting me.”  The first biddy chimed in.

“Again, if you were in a vanilla relationship that would most likely be true.  But if you are submissive, and you are told NOT to cum, you don’t cum.  Why is this even a topic?”

“It’s a topic because every man I’ve known has usually shot a load every time we fooled around.  What I’m saying is that I find it rude for a man to fool around with me and NOT shoot a load.  I take offense to that.” The first biddy said.

“I’m trying to tell you, not all relationships are the same!  In a vanilla world, with Alpha males, you’ll usually get mutually satisfying orgasms.  In the world of the submissive male, his partners orgasm IS his orgasm.  He doesn’t physically need to cum in order to be fulfilled.”

“Josh, Josh, Josh…..” Biddy number 2 shook her head.  “Do you know how ridiculous you sound?”  “What man doesn’t want to cum when fooling around with his girl?”

“Oh my gawd!  Will you listen to me.  I’m trying to tell you that sub-miss-ive men don’t always need to cum.  In some cases they are NOT allowed to cum.  Sometimes their junk is locked up and they can’t even get a hard-on TO cum!”  I was getting a bit heated.

My Owner was snickering into her glass as she noticed the look on my face.  The biddies were all cackling too.  This was a planned hit job and I fell for it like a fool.

I looked around at them all, “What’s so funny?!”

“Josh, you are just to easy to get riled up sometimes.” Biddy 1 said.  “You need to relax.  I would love to have a submissive in my life that would be kept chaste for me.  It’s actually a hot fantasy to tease a man and forbid him to cum.  I’d love the begging he would do before I kicked him out of bed.” She seemed sincere as she smiled at me.

I never truly knew how much they heard from my Owner.  I’m sure they knew more than I thought they knew.  We don’t parade our lifestyle in front of people though, so it’s sometimes hard to gauge when they are messing around with me.  That particular night, they got the better of me.  It was kind of funny in retrospect though.  I really did start to get spun up, but they exposed their game way before I really got going.

The whole reason for this story did get me thinking though.  Do people in the vanilla world really think that those of us in the lifestyle are just a bit “kinky”?  I often wonder if they truly understand the emotional surrender that accompanies a serious D/s relationship.  So I say, “Why can’t they understand?”

Cheers All!





Flash Sale!

Hi Friends!  I hope you all have gotten yourselves squared away for the holidays.  I’m finally finished with everything that was needed.  What a fun AND stressful time of year.

In the spirit of the season I was able to get 4 of my Novellas on sale at once using my new favorite way to distribute my work, Payhip.com.  Sorry Amazon, you just won’t let me put stuff on sale all at once 😦

Here are the links to the writings, and they will be .99 cents until January 1st!!

Amazon did let me list my first 2 books for a week, so if you prefer using them I’ve included those links as well.  However, after 2 days they go to $1.99, meanies!!

https://payhip.com/b/JoNT  : A Marriage with a Twist

https://payhip.com/b/3tXy   : The Game of Chastity

https://payhip.com/b/ptNB  : Creation of a Dream

https://payhip.com/b/f06Y   : The Corporal Princess

Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/Marriage-Twist-submissive-Husbands-Journey-ebook/dp/B019S2R6NE/ref=la_B019UC2TYS_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1482578513&sr=1-1

Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/Game-Chastity-submissive-Husbands-Journey-ebook/dp/B019UHKX0U/ref=la_B019UC2TYS_1_5?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1482578562&sr=1-5

Enjoy your time with family, friends, and loved ones!  Thanks for all of your support this year!





What Does It Mean?

Hi Friends,

I’ve been wondering about something.  Like any “vanilla” relationship, a true D/s relationship is bound to have it’s ups and downs, right?  I’m speaking purely in the sexual sense.

Generally, there comes a point in a relationship when you’re both so comfortable with each other that sex takes a backseat to just living life, doesn’t it?  I know there are all kinds of variables like kids, in-laws, advancing your professional education, family matters, etc… Is it fair to our sexual relationship that we let it rest while we go about our other business?  I don’t think it should be, but inevitably we all fall out of that chase for the ultimate attention of our partner, right?

I know I’m asking a few too many questions here, but I honestly don’t have a great answer. We were out with friends a few weeks back and this topic came up.  We all agreed that there tends to be a lull in most relationships, but we couldn’t agree on if that should be accepted as normal, or if we should keep fighting the good fight to keep sex alive and well.

I’m stuck on the fence between it meaning that we are getting lazy for taking sex for granted, and the sexual slow down being a normal, comfortable, settling in of a relationship.  There are so many factors that influence our daily lives that it really is hard to discern the difference sometimes.

This discussion has become an ongoing, circular, debate with my friends.  I just wanted to throw it out to my cyber friends to see if anyone has had a similar discussion and what, if any, conclusions you may have come to.

Thanks for taking some time out of your day to read this!  Cheers Friends!!






Lock-Tober, The Final Week

Corporal Princess Cover

Where has the time gone?  Only seven days left in October?

I hope everyone has stayed the course and left their junk on lockdown!  I’ve been safely tucked away with the exception of two tease and denial sessions this whole month.  Deliciously frustrating indeed!!

This week’s .99 cent sale is a very popular Novella in my submissive Husband’s Journey series, “The Corporal Princess” and it runs until next Monday!

Enjoy reading this one to help pass the time in the last week of the chastity challenge.  We got this guys and gals!  7 more days is a cakewalk!

Thanks again for your support!  Enjoy your final LOCK-TOBER week!

All the best,



Amazon US:  https://www.amazon.com/Corporal-Princess-submissive-Husbands-Journey-ebook/dp/B01ADWOFX2/ref=sr_1_3?s=digital-text&ie=UTF8&qid=1477314917&sr=1-3&refinements=p_27%3AJosh+N.+Covington

Amazon UK: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Corporal-Princess-submissive-Husbands-Journey-ebook/dp/B01ADWOFX2/ref=sr_1_3?s=digital-text&ie=UTF8&qid=1477314778&sr=1-3

Lock-Tober,Week 3


Week Three Already?!

It’s gone by so fast! This week’s .99 cent sale is on the first Novella of my submissive Husband’s Journey series, “A Marriage With A Twist” and it runs until next Monday!

This one continues to be a strong title and I can’t be happier to offer it to you as a reward for your Lock-Tober, lock-down challenge!

I’m still in chastity and have no plans on getting out for the next few weeks.  I hope all of your key-holders are on board with this month’s challenge too!  Keep having fun with staying locked up!

I’ve added another option for non-kindle users at the payhip.com site.

Thanks again for your support!  Enjoy another week safely locked away!

All the best,



Amazon US:  https://www.amazon.com/Marriage-Twist-submissive-Husbands-Journey-ebook/dp/B019S2R6NE/ref=la_B019UC2TYS_1_2?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1476707700&sr=1-2

Amazon UK: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Marriage-Twist-submissive-Husbands-Journey-ebook/dp/B019S2R6NE/ref=sr_1_2?s=digital-text&ie=UTF8&qid=1476707396&sr=1-2

The UK sale was delayed until Wednesday, October 19, but will run until October 26th!

Lock-Tober Continues!


Hi Friends!

I’m still locked down and going strong!  Stay with me now!  Don’t give in!

Since last weeks celebration sale went so well, I’m adding a new Novella this week for the same .99 cents.  It’s an appropriate title, “The Game of Chastity”, one of the earlier pieces in my series.

I’ve added another option for non-kindle users at the payhip.com site.

Thanks again for your support!  Enjoy another week safely locked away!  NO CHEATING!

All the best,



Amazon US:  https://www.amazon.com/s?ie=UTF8&page=1&rh=n%3A133140011%2Cp_27%3AJosh%20N.%20Covington

Amazon UK: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Kindle-Store-Josh-N-Covington/s?ie=UTF8&page=1&rh=n%3A341677031%2Cp_27%3AJosh%20N.%20Covington


Hi Friends,

As promised, I’ve added 2 of my Novellas to the Lock-Tober sale from now until Lock-Tober 10th.

Creation of A Dream, and Her Devious Paradise will both be .99 cents for the week!

I plan on having a weekly sale until the end of the month featuring a different eBook each week.


UK: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Kindle-Store-Josh-N-Covington/s?ie=UTF8&page=1&rh=n%3A341677031%2Cp_27%3AJosh%20N.%20Covington

US: https://www.amazon.com/s?ie=UTF8&page=1&rh=n%3A133140011%2Cp_27%3AJosh%20N.%20Covington

Happy Locktober!!

Hey Friends,

I just wanted to wish all of my readers and followers a Happy Locktober!  Yes, it’s really a thing.  So lock yourself, or have your keyholder lock you down for 31 delightful days!!

I’m locked and ready to go myself.  I actually got a bit of a headstart, but I love being locked up in chastity anyway, so all is good.

In honor of the occaision, I’ll be putting some of my Novellas on sale during the month for .99 cents.  The first sale will start on October 3rd, and run for a week.  I’ll send out a reminder on Monday for everyone.  Two of my “submissive Husband’s Journey” books will be just .99 cents in the US and in the UK.

For those of you that may not have heard about Locktober.  It’s an annual ritual among chastity practitioners whereby you are locked into your devices for a full 31 days without release.  Hopefully you all have a devious Dominant in your lives that will make your lockup a teasingly, excruciatingly, frustrating time!

Personally, I can’t wait for my Owner to make it ache and throb.  Ha Ha Ha

Have fun friends!!





What Did I do Wrong Now?

Here I am, minding my own business last weekend, the next thing I know I’m getting yelled at.  I looked up at this screaming lunatic and all I said was, “what did I do wrong now?”  That was it.  She went ballistic.

“What do you mean what did you do wrong?  Everything.  You did everything wrong!”

“Huh?” Was my reaction.  But that wasn’t the correct one.

“You smug little bastard!  I asked you, no, TOLD you to be ready to go out shopping with me.  Are you ready?  You don’t look ready to me!”

I had been up late Saturday night doing, lets just say, stuff, and I completely forgot about the plans that were made to go out Sunday morning.  That’s not a good thing for a submissive to do.  Forget things that is.

“You will pay for this Josh!” She said through gritted teeth.

She NEVER uses my name, never.  So, much like a little kid, I knew she was really mad.

“Get your ass ready, now!  You have 5 minutes!”

I had never scrambled so fast in my life.  I knew when she was angry with me in a real sense, not just the make pretend sense that sometimes accompanies a punishment session.  So, it followed that I was terrified of what she may do when we got home.

I really did forget.  I was just tired, and kind of had my heart set on a lazy Sunday.  I was wrong.  I tried to apologize all afternoon but that just seemed to make it worse.  She was upset that I didn’t put her needs first as I should have.  She was right in being mad at me.

So, later that evening, after a quite intense punishment session, I was informed that my chastity cage would be put back on, and would remain on for the forseeable future.

Let this be a lesson fellow subs, do not, I repeat, DO NOT, forget anything that you are told to do.  My Owner tends to be a bit compulsive at times, so if everything isn’t “just so”, I can get seriously messed up.

I tend to be laid back about this kind of thing after so many years of living the lifestyle, but I can’t help laughing at my stupidity this time.  I guess it just goes to show you that no matter how experienced you think you are, there’s always a new lesson waiting around the corner.

Have fun friends!  Cheers!



Purpose and Meaning

On the heels of my newest release, I thought it nice to follow up with a thought that I’ve shared on several occasions.  It pertains to the punishment phase in a D/s relationship.

Remember, I’m a proponent of “lifestyle” relationships, that is, my focus is on the 24/7  Dominant/submissive coupling.  The folks that like to get kinky once in awhile may benefit from my ramblings, but generally I’m speaking to the more involved D/s couples (gender does not matter).

With that in mind, when it’s time to punish your submissive, always make it have a purpose.  Was a rule broken, was disrespect shown, are you using the time to reinforce certain behaviors, etc….

In order to truly “train” your submissive the goal is to correct, or modify, something.  Otherwise, you’d just be punishing your sub for the heck of it.  That may be the intent of course, but I think that there needs to be a more meaningful reason involved.  At least let your submissive think there’s more to it than there may be.  That adds to the drama, and by a sub’s nature, the pleasure of accepting your punishment.

Here’s an example of what I mean.  Last week my Owner lost music on her cell phone.  I had nothing to do with it at all.  However, she convinced me, through punishment, that if she was upset, ultimately it was my fault because my job is to keep her happy.  She gave meaning and purpose to an otherwise pointless punishment.  She was able to continue her training of me, while adding some spice to it.

Hopefully, we all remember that it’s easy to get relaxed in a relationship.  Sometimes things just become routine.  If you try to give meaning, and purpose to your D/s interactions, your relationship may stay more fresh and interesting.

Cheers All!